Averages

That men are taller than women is true — on average. But there are short men and tall women. Height is not an intrinsic characteristic of being male; one does not need to be tall to be a man.

So it is with all the other criteria we have come up with to define gender. The differences are all averages. ‘Masculinity’ and ‘femininity’ are societal constructs built around those averages. None of them are intrinsic to whom or what we are.

Not a one of them makes us more or less of a man or a woman.